Does control of emotions an easier job?
Well no, controlling emotions is not easy. The emotions in humans are the key to our mood and we often seem overwhelmed by the situation, whether at home, at work or in class, with our partners, with our friends: We see things that get out of hand, and everything is beyond our control, but knowing how to control and manage emotions will help us make better decisions. The emotions of human beings are the key to directing our actions and if we act under the influence of stress, anger, sadness, anxiety or also by euphoria or excitement, we are probably wrong.
However, living with these emotions is far from easy and it can be even more difficult to survive managing emotions than to make the right decisions.
I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them. Oscar Wilde
The first step in managing emotions is recognizing and understanding your own emotions, knowing if you are dealing with positive or negative emotions. Below you can use a series of tricks to control your emotions and survive this tough mental and emotional task.
1. Take some time:
The dizzying pace of life in our society means that many times we do not take our time to reflect but to avoid impulses and manage emotions it never hurts to leave the situation that alters us for a moment so as not to act impulsively. In the long term, this may be one of the common symptoms to detect low self-esteem in a person. If you are angry or disappointed in someone, avoid them until the frustration subsides or the anger subsides.
This way you avoid unnecessary conflicts, and when expressing your feelings try to be as politically correct, without directly blaming the other. This will not only help you manage your emotions but will also protect you from embarrassment after controlling the situation.
Life is a comedy to those who think, a tragedy to those who feel. Jean Racine
2. Find a different point of view:
Things look different depending on the perspective with which to focus, so in addition to taking things calmly take advantage of this time of reflection to find another point of view that will give an alternative view to the problem, facilitating the solution. Perhaps what now anguishes your soul or scares you seem a trifle if you see it differently. That different perspective helps you find the solution.
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3. Sports activity:
It seems like the miracle cure for any problem we may have, but the truth is that sports and meditation will help us considerably to manage our emotions effectively. There are those who see things clearly when they go running or on the bicycle, others have in sports an escape formula to de-stress and release tension. Meditation can also help you relax and reduce anxiety, but it must be something regular, not the last resort in case of stress. With prayers, meditation, and pranayama many negative emotions disappear.
4. Think short term:
When emotions dominate us, we forget about the future and the consequences that our actions will have. It is easy that if emotions dominate you, you only think about the present, but perhaps that anger, anxiety, or euphoria will have disappeared in a week. Thinking ahead is a very effective trick to maintain self-control.
It is a very useful and interesting long-term strategy since unlike other techniques such as distraction, the problem will not return in the not-too-distant future. And this is one of the main keys to achieving high self-esteem and living in the present.
Books can also provoke emotions. And emotions sometimes are even more troublesome than ideas.
Emotions have led people to do all sorts of things they later regret-like, oh, throwing a book at someone else. Pseudonymous Bosch
5. To write a diary:
It is true that newspapers are no longer in fashion, and that blogs are now taking place, but today one of the best exercises to control emotions is to write in general about your feelings. It is a technique to control those emotions that also gives us very good results. One of the advantages of the diary is that you can write everything that annoys you, what distresses you, and what saddens you without fear of anyone reading it. You will not have to save anything, not a bad word, not a bad comment. Then you can take advantage of it to reflect or directly burn it or destroy it so that no one else reads it.
On the other end, Suppression of emotions can also be dangerous to your mental health. The best thing is to express them gently so that you can never regret them later on.
In short, if we are aware of our emotions and we are able to control them as much as possible, we can say that the rest of things are flowing, because really, everything has its time and the importance of time is the determining factor to know, live and appreciate the essence of each moment.
How do you manage your emotions?
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