Lately, I’ve been, I’ve been thinking
I want you to be happier; I want you to be happier
We are living in a world of miseries. Happiness comes for a short time period and then leaves us at the mercy of difficult and critical situations. However, happiness can be worked on, it’s just a matter of incorporating small habits into your day to day that help you feel better and achieve the goals you want.
1. Don’t hold back your negative thoughts:
To be happier it is essential to know how to manage your thoughts and emotions. No matter how critical the situations are, inspire yourself by showing positivity and express your emotions gently. If you insist on repressing the negative thoughts and emotions, the only thing you will achieve is to become obsessed with what you are trying to avoid. This is demonstrated by studies conducted by New York psychologists. To ward off negative thoughts, it is more advantageous to find ways to distract yourself, focus on work, or spend time with the people you love. Here’s a Guide to Stop Negative Thoughts.
2. If something worries you, write about it:
“Think a little to change the world, bet on “expressive writing”, a very effective method to be happier.†Richard Wiseman (The author of the book 59 Seconds). The effects of writing about our thoughts and feelings are quickly reflected in our mood. Writing invites create a structure that gives meaning to what happened and goes towards a solution.
3. Do not get used to what you have, value it:
If we listen to a sound constantly, we stop perceiving it. The same thing happens with the things in our life that are worthwhile: eventually, we stop seeing them. This invisibility becomes dangerous for our spirits when you only look at the negative things. To combat this dynamic, spend at least five minutes a week thinking about the things that make your life better. In my opinion, it is enough to increase your level of optimism.
4. Take an interest in others:
Self-help Messiah Dale Carnegie mentioned that one way to increase popularity is to express a genuine interest in others. You get more friends like this in two months than trying twenty years to get others to care about you.
5. Recycle the energy from bad vibes:
Recycle the energy from bad vibes you faced in a painful situation, try to convert anger and helplessness into positive energy. Ask yourself;
Can this experience help me to be stronger?
To appreciate what I do not value?
To become a better person?
Here are the 12 Tips to be a Better Version of Yourself.
6. Don’t buy so much, live and share more:
Enjoying experiences makes people happier than buying objects. The explanation is that our mind distorts the moments lived, forgetting the negative and highlighting the positive. From travel, for example, we do not remember tiredness or mosquitoes. On the contrary, products that can attract us so much at one time tend to lose their appeal over time. However, experiences are often shared.
7. Gestures that give happiness:
We smile when we are happy, but we are also happier because we smile, and this has been shown by several studies. Keeping a sincere smile between 15 and 30 seconds is enough to positively modify your emotions. Likewise, walking relaxed, swinging the arms more, and emphasizing the movement of the hands when speaking or nodding more frequently when listening, are gestures that will help you change your mood.
8. Unmask the liars:
To keep yourself safe from liars, there are tricks. He is suspicious of someone who gets lost in unnecessary details, hesitates, and tries to avoid references to himself. If you need a guarantee, try to get that person to contact you via email. We lie 20% less through email than through phone calls. Words are blown away, but the printed paper is not.
9. Change things in your life:
There are two types of changes in our lives: circumstantial which have more to do with general changes than with our participation and intentional that requires an effort on our part. Achieving the second one gives a greater and lasting satisfaction. It’s a great investment to start new hobbies, projects, or learn a new sport.
10. Listen to yourself and you will find the solution:
Our conscious is like a noisy person who does not let us hear our inner self. And that’s often where we find the solutions. To give voice to yourself, try to find moments of relaxation to allow your brain to find new connections.
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11. No goal is too far:
The effectiveness of any plan is based on knowing how to divide it into small objectives that make the project achievable. If you have to face a task that seems overwhelming, think about dedicating “just a few minutes†to it. When fear, laziness, or responsibility paralyze us, it is the best strategy, since it not only helps us to get going, but it is most likely that, once we are in, we will dedicate much more than ever before to it.
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12. Look at yourself with the eyes of the other:
Although one of the bases of positive thinking to be happier is to visualize the goal, those who see themselves taking the steps to achieve the goal are more likely to succeed than those who limit themselves to fantasizing. And if you see yourself through the eyes of others, you have a better chance of success in life.
We mistakenly believe that happiness is yet to come. “I will be happy when I find a partner”, “I would be happier if I received a higher salary”, “If this did not happen to me, I would be happier”, these and other thoughts are common when we reflect on our well-being. We are not going to fall into the cliche of saying that happiness is made up of small moments – which perhaps it is – but we are going to explain to you in the descriptions above what the changes are, according to psychologist Richard Wiseman, which you can apply from now on in your day to day to feel better and try to be a little bit happier.
“Happiness doesn’t come from success. Actually, it is its cause” Richard Wiseman
Little Habits that Help:
Bad moments and negative thoughts will always exist. It is not about blocking everything sad in your life. The important thing is to learn; how to drive them away? Find ways to distract yourself when shadows appear.
Smile more, really. Keeping a smile for 15 or 30 seconds might help to modify your emotions. Talking about what worries us is important, but what is really effective is putting it on paper. The act of writing makes us structure our thoughts and find the solution to a conflict almost unintentionally.
It is important to force small changes in our life. They help us to feel alive and, in addition, to live new experiences. Learn a new language, Gardening or photography, practice a different hobby or just listen to music that you are not used to. Everything helps.
When a problem, a task, or an objective becomes difficult for you, divide by mini objectives (small tasks) and assign a time to them. This is how we make any project affordable.
Be Happier with what you Have:
It is important to value what you already have, which is sure to be a lot. Spend five minutes a week thinking about the good things: family, friends, work, skills. I’m sure there is something worthwhile in all areas of your life. It is an infallible technique to increase your levels of optimism.
Shopping is not going to make you happier, but having more life experiences is. In addition, experiences are often shared, while the purchase of objects is usually an individual gesture that tends to distance us and isolate us from our friends.
There are many things that your subconscious already knows, but that you do not want to hear. Exterior noise doesn’t stop us to feel what our interior is saying and that is where we can find the truth or the solution to problems that overwhelm us.
Turn negative energy from things that happen to you that you don’t like into positive solutions or at least in apprenticeships. When you think that when something bad happens to you it is terrible, try to turn it around and write down three positive things about the situation. It will give you the strength you need to overcome.
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