How to Improve Your Self-Esteem as a Woman
The woman’s self-esteem must be developed and strengthened, since she is the person, who has in her hands, an important part of the family situation, in addition to her own well-being. A woman is a powerful and most important member (A role Model) in every society which has the responsibility to build our new generation. So, woman empowerment is the need of the day. If a woman will be educated and filled with a higher level of self-esteem, her children will also be the shining stars of society.
8th March is celebrated as International Women’s Day. Women with a higher level of self-esteem and higher self-confidence can live happier and complete life. As a woman, you should never underestimate the importance of self-esteem. If you want to get what you dream of, you have to work on and strengthen your self-esteem.
- Your well-being is your responsibility.
- It starts today, it’s worth it.
Dr. Orison Swett Marden, Founder of “Success Magazine” and writer, says:
- The golden opportunity you are looking for is in yourself.
- It is not in your environment.
- It is not in luck or coincidence.
- Nor it is in the help of others.
- It is alone and completely in yourself.
How to Improve Your Self-Esteem as a Woman?
Women may be more sensitive than men in relation to their self-esteem.
Like the boy, the girl who does not feel loved and important by her parents or who feels very criticized, concludes that they do not love her, because she is not worthy of being loved.
She can feel it’s not worth it. This belief may or may not be based on reality. But it is the perception of a little girl.
This feeling is fed by the verbal (words) and non-verbal (tone of voice, gestures, lack of caresses, etc.), which she receives first from her parents and then from other family members and close people.
The elements that most influence a woman’s self-esteem are:
- The social model, of what it “means” to be a woman.
- The self-esteem of the parents.
- The lack of a partner, separation, divorce or not wanting to be a mother.
- The large number of roles that women have to play.
- Sex discrimination at work.
- The empty nest.
What does it mean to be a woman?
Society presents us with a model of what it means to be a woman: Being weak, dependent, submissive, always dedicated to the family, etc. Although this model is changing, most women grew up with it or are related to people who still believe it.
This description of the woman sends us two messages:
- There are many things that you cannot do and you need someone strong and capable to do it or help you. That is, you are unable to defend yourself.
- The needs and desires of the people you love come before yours. Therefore, you are unimportant.
The self-esteem of the parents:
The self-esteem of parents (one or both) directly influences the self-esteem of the children:
- A mother with low self-esteem, submissive, and even fearful of her husband or life, can lower her daughter’s self-esteem. However, girls tend to imitate their mothers.
- A father with low or inflated self-esteem who takes: A brave attitude teaches the girl that the woman is always “below” the value and importance of the man.
- A rigid or authoritarian attitude implies constant criticism that tells the little girl: “You are wrong, you are no good, whatever you do, and you are not good or capable enough.”
Self-esteem, marriage and motherhood:
Until recently it was thought that being a woman was getting married and having children.
It is wrongly thought that if a woman does not want or can maintain a relationship with children, it is because she “is wrong.”
The society holds women responsible for the results of all their relationships because to be a woman is to be loving, dedicated, patient, enduring, etc.
Even many people wrongly blame the wife for the infidelities and disloyalties of her partner, because she does not give her husband what he needs.
So, the study has revealed that, if the woman believes in these misconceptions, her self-esteem and self-confidence go down.
The roles of women:
Culture demands that women be a mother, wife, daughter, housewife, cook, friend, etc., etc.
That she is ready 24 hours a day, to fulfill the obligations and responsibilities of all her roles. And also, that she does it perfectly and without getting angry.
If the woman works outside the home, her situation is complicated, because she has to do her job, without neglecting her other obligations and this is the most frustrating situation that directly impacts a woman’s self-esteem. I personally know many women performing teaching nursing duties in schools and hospitals, and during the off-time, they fulfill the desires and responsibilities of their families.
This is impossible and disgusting:
If the woman believes it is her duty or has low self-esteem, try to do it.
She tries to be a “superwoman”, to demonstrate and to prove herself, her value and her capacity.
Sex discrimination at work:
Most of the time, companies, and even employees consider women inferior to men in carrying out a large number of jobs. She has to work more, to earn less or the same as men, in the same position. In addition, she has to compete with other women so as not to be left behind and expose herself to lower pay or job loss.
In these cases, the woman who works may feel alone in a situation where she has to constantly demonstrate her worth, both to people of the same sex, as well as to those of the opposite sex.
When women are treated as inferior, they can easily end up believing it.
The empty nest:
Many women dedicate themselves almost exclusively to being a mother. They are often valued based on caring for, helping, and caring for their children. When she left home, the woman feels that she loses her identity as a mother or that she is no longer needed and her self-esteem decreases significantly.
What can you do?
You need to review the different aspects to determine which may be negatively influencing your self-esteem.
The self-esteem questionnaire and read the information about its meaning, its formation and the characteristics of the different types: high, low and inflated.
Remember that to improve a situation, before finding the solution, you have to recognize the problem or what is bothering you.
To have a better life, women need to know each other.
Know what your wishes are and what abilities and limitations you have.
To strengthen your self-esteem, you need to stop believing in some of the wrong ideas and values, which you have learned during childhood.
Such beliefs perhaps were valid in the early days and had a reason for being at that time. What so ever be the reason behind those thoughts; today’s woman needs education, a job, and a life of her own desire. And this is only possible if a woman has higher self-esteem and has the courage to face life challenges boldly.
What is the self-esteem level of a woman in your society?
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